So in the past few weeks since my last post (Sorry, I know it’s been a while) alot has changed.
The very direction and result we had hoped for has now violently and methodically been altered. It has become a battle that has now become inter-provincial and those that need to know, are starting to listen and evidence is being brought forth.
Since Melissa unexpectedly showed up at the airport on January 29, 2018 there was immediately questions and unknown’s. And over the next 7 weeks leading up to April 6,2018, She and I will work harder and scrape together as much money as we can to get her back to island to make contact with our little boy, James.
She would message her parents sometimes twice a day. Calling her ‘dad’ 3 or 4 times a week. Every week. From the moment she landed back on January 29. Her ‘dad’ only replying once. His response to her heart-wrenching cries for ANY details or information about her son she was forcefully seperated from for the 2nd time in less than 20 months. “How is My son? Does he miss me?” she asks. Her father replies,”He is happy to see ANYONE who feeds him.”
Just the typical ‘loving’ remark any genuine and ethically and heartfelt gand-parent would say.
When I read that response I instantly felt a rage inside of me that just wanted to lash out a 1000 different ways! Inflicting the same pain he and his unmoralistic wife ‘D’ have inflicted emotionally on myself and their own daughter, Melissa.
I often tried to place myself in her shoes. Although the pain of this matter has been shared between us both, as a mother , to have your child taken from you, not once but twice by the same people. So they could satisfy their own sick thirst to control and manipulate every situation to get THEIR way, and seemingly be accountable to none of it? FUCK THAT!!
After getting on a bus and travelling all the way back to her parents house on Mill Road, Qualicum Beach, Vancouver Island, she walked up the house to see her adoptive father (L.H.) mowing the grass. Without even saying hello he pipes up when she is a few feet from the door. “What are you doing here?, he says. “You son is NOT HERE!” and then proceeds to ask why she is even there and if she doesn’t leave the property he’ll call the police.
?!?!?!?!?!?! Are you Fu%#$& Kidding me !?!?!?!?!?
Like the cold and calculated and selfish people they are, although calling them people I feel is undeserving. They don’t qualify. But like they have proven time and time again, they have went and done the unthinkable to satisfy and then cower to prove once and for all who is in charge!! THEY ARE!!
They really showed their daughter and me just how much pain they can cause to hold their heads high and fool their community, co-worker’s and anyone else they portray themselves to be. Just like in the affidavit they gave on July 19,2017 in Red Deer, Alberta that they outright LIED on. Under oath i might add.
Form day 1 when I chose to stay at a hotel in comfort on MY holiday , instead of staying at their house so they could ‘control’ the situation is the ONLY reason ANY of this is happening. D.H. verbally stated this during the phone call we had back on January 21,2018. I also have an email where she states this very petty and selfish justification for emotionally destroying her daughter’s psyche and altering and confusing my life and little baby James’ life.
On a positive note, those who need to know, know. But it is for all these reasons why they methodically shipped her off the Island on January 28,2018. They ALREADY knew and had planned to do the unthinkable and give their daughter’s son…AWAY!
From what we understand they gave him away sometime between February 7 and February 12,2018. But we know where he was taken. We have been in contact with those who need to know.
Alot of people around the globe have told me this record and account as I outline it in this blog may be detrimental to my case and for the proper and rightful justice this case should have. The way I see it is this. If it is so easy to LIE and manipulate the system that is supposed to stand for peace and justice and a fair right to stand up for whats right then what are we doing???? Is this ‘JUST’? Is this ‘JUSTIFIED’?
I really love the comments. Good or Bad or Impartial I read em all. And take every bit of advice or suggestions and think about it form a rational point of view.
But one way or another I’m getting my son(s) back!! There is NO WAY this will be allowed to go uninterrupted and unquestioned. And those responsible for fucking with MY life, with their daughter’s life and the life of a little boy who has exchanged hands and houses more times in his short life that he is probably in a state of confusion and wonder. It breaks my heart.
So, that’s where we stand right now. Heart broken and looking for answer’s. During the past 22 months I have never felt an emotion so profound as in relation to wanting my youngest boys in my life. Ryder and I had a bond that was special for us. Not to discredit his mother for anything because the reality of it is that she is a good and loving mother to him. That was never in question. But what is wrong is how she has purposely chosen to omit and discredit me out of his life. All because she is selfish and has this fictitious notion that her current bf SHOULD be Ryder’s father. Even though MY family helped and accepted her many times over even prior to when Ryder was born. I helped her lot’s and this is my repayment. I haven’t seen my son in 3 Christmas’ in a row. I promise you Ryder, there will NOT be a fourth!
And for my little baby boy James’, whom I have never held or played with or given an opportunity to love and raise and watch him grow, I will also see you very soon as well. Diligent research and inquiry has finally paid off.
This series of posts as they relate to my current situation with my boys, is dedicated to ALL parents out there who have been thrown under the bus and have not seen their children due to a vengeful ex, a pack of lies or a methodical plot to cause you pain to satisfy someone else’s sick need to inflict pain, My heart goes out to you and I understand your pain. But there are ways to connect with those whose voices and positions CAN help you reclaim your happiness and your children. Just think outside the box. If a level of provincial or federal government is getting you nowhere then look ..HIGHER. Who do they answer to? That’s where I went. And in a very short time was able to reach the very top. As an example, If anyone out there has a Maintenance Order against them that was outlined by an old tax return or a circumstance that was NOT included or excluded from the original motion, then you know that trying to get anyone from Maintenance Enforcement to listen to you is next to impossible. The system was/is designed to make default and ‘dead beat’ father’s accountable for their children. Fair enough. But it was NEVER designed or outlined to protect or allow the father’s of children who have been unjustifiably had their children taken away or right to see them denied by the spouses, grandparents,co-worker’s or former friend who just wants to cause them pain for their own needs. Circumstances such as these SHOULD have a place in our courts and in our Family Law Resolution policies.
And those who alter and disrupt the lives of others with malicious and selfish intent SHOULD be held accountable to the fullest extent of the law! Sentence or fine or take away THEIR rights or ability to see their children for the exact amount of time YOU/I were taken away from OURS! Maybe then people will think twice before using the system and the courts to act out their methodical and pain inflicting notions.
There is little left to do now but wait for a reply. L.H. & D.H. who live on Mill Rd, Qualicum Beach, Vancouver Island, I have but 1 thing left to say to you………but that will have to wait until I see you both face to face in court. But know this. When the dust has settled and there is nothing left to do or say NEITHER of you will EVER SEE or INTERACT or be in James’ life. You are poison who stole him from his mother, twice and without blinking an eye, gave him AWAY like he was nothing!! You both should be ashamed of yourself for doing and acting how you have going all the way back to the summer of 2016 when you arrived in Red Deer. But even then I offered you both a civil and beneficial resolve for all of us, multiple times, when I was justified then so write you off. The steps you took to gain, alter, control and emotionally discredit Melissa and myself will be what sets US free!!
And you two can look back at what could have been, and what you will NEVER have again!
Help us bring James home where he belongs. If anyone in the greater Vancouver area can help us, please comment below.
Thanks for reading this post.
For James and Ryder.